There are some friends who feel like an emotional ball and chain. They’re always in need of one thing or another: money, favors, help, coddling, praise---or simply more time than you have to give.
Like a wailing toddler, they can be so demanding that their friendship tires you and weighs you down. Who needs that kind of friend? Many women do.
- People who like feeling needed---or once liked the feeling (even if they don’t anymore)
- People who feel like they aren’t worthy of healthier, more balanced relationships
- People who are stuck---either feeling angry or sorry for their needy friend---and feel unable to get out of it
- Change the nature of your friendship by learning to say “no” and setting boundaries (e.g. “Even though we are both single, I don’t want to spend every Friday night together.”)
- Tell her that you have to tend to your own needs (or those of anyone else you can think of)
- Slip away - Spend less time with her and add other less demanding friends to your inventory
- Take a relationship sabbatical or hiatus from the friendship (you deserve it!)
- If it's that bad, simply cut loose!
These are people whose needs can never be satiated. No matter what you give, what you do, how much, or how often, it will never be enough. Since character tends to endure, this person probably treats other people the same way she treats you. It’s likely that many of her friends have probably already dropped out of the picture and that’s why she is so dependent on you.