It’s so easy to make resolutions and so hard to keep them. Every year, women resolve to lose weight, reduce stress, work smarter, and improve their relationships with family and friends.
I thought a little more specificity might help clarify my Friendship Resolutions (and yours) and make them more concrete and achievable. Here goes:
1) Get real
Don’t expect all of your friendships to last forever
2) Don’t settle for one BFF
Surround yourself with a number of synergistic relationships
3) Get rid of toxic friendships
If a friendship consistently drains you, brings you down, makes you nervous, or makes you angry, it is not worth keeping.
4) Don’t be a toxic friend
Don’t be too needy. Listen as much as you talk. Don’t expect any one friend to fulfill all your needs.
5) Reach back
There is no substitute for shared history. With the internet and low-cost cell phone calls, there’s no reason to not reconnect with significant friends from your past.
6) Prepare for your future
Continually work at making new friends. As we grow and mature, we need to replenish our stock to keep our friendships fresh and vital.
7) Don’t be threatened by the internet
Virtual friendships on MySpace, Facebook and LinkedIn don’t undermine friendships. Rather, they can enhance old friendships and create new ones.
8) Just do it
There is no substitute for setting aside time for your friendships and the payoff is worthwhile. Don’t just talk about getting together. Mark you calendar.
HAPPY NEW YEAR!