While most friendships have their highs and lows, toxic ones are characterized by consistent patterns of negativity.
Yet, the signs
of a toxic friendship aren’t always obvious. Women tend to overlook, forgive, and
forget to keep up our friendships---but here are some ways to determine if one
of your friendships may be bad for you, either mentally, physically, or both. Ask yourself:
- Does scheduling time to see your friend feel like an obligation rather than a pleasure?
- Do you ever feel trapped when you are together?
- Do you feel tense in her presence?
- Does she often show off at your expense?
- Is she never reliably there when you need her?
- Is she self-centered, sneaky, deceitful, or disloyal?
- Does she have habitually bad judgment?
- Are you giving more than you’re getting?
- Does the relationship feel out-of-sync?
- Do you feel emotionally drained when you are with her?
- Do you come away from her feeling depressed?
- When you talk, does it feel like she isn’t listening or just doesn’t get it?
- Do you dread her phone calls?
- Do you hate when you see her screen name online when you look at your buddy list?
- Are her emails too long to read?
- Does she always choose to spend her time with men, over you, given the opportunity?
- Has she flirted with the man in your life?
- Has she done anything to undermine your position at work?
- Can you trust her to keep your confidences?
- Has she betrayed you?
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